9 Signs That You Have Toxic Friends.

Friends are the people who are supposed to be there for you may it be good times, especially on bad times. There might not be a guide to have a perfect friendship or if it even exists because it is natural for friends to have disagreements and small fights, but when do you know if they're the ones dragging you down instead of actually building you up?

Here are 9 signs that you have toxic friends and you might realize how you've been treasuring them all along while they're actually busy making sure to make you feel down and small.

1. They pressure you to do things that they know you don't want to do.

Any person shouldn't be held against their will to do a thing they don't want. So if your friends pressure you to do things you know you're not comfortable doing and make you feel bad or guilty about it, maybe it is time to think twice if they are really your friends. Showing encouragement and support is different from forcing or pressuring someone, let alone a person that they treat a friend. This can result in peer pressure which will make you force yourself to do something you don't want for their approval is really not a good thing.

2. They make you feel like every decision you make is wrong.

Sure, a little advice or warning that you might be making the wrong decision is natural for a friend to tell you because they care for you, but if they insist that the decision you made or almost every decision you makes is a bad thing rather than make you find it our yourself, it seems like they don't trust you at all. And trust is a big part of every friendship. Think about it.

3. They always point out your flaws and what's lacking about you.

Being honest and open in telling you your flaws and lacking qualities might help you change it or do something about it. But if it becomes too hurtful and too frequent like it is the only thing they see in you, it can make you feel less of a person and it becomes toxic for you. There's a fine line between honesty for you to be better and criticism that aims to make you feel bad about yourself.

4. They're not there when you need them even though you've been there for them always.

One of the most wonderful things in having a friend is that you'll be able to have someone whom you can talk to and share ideas as well as your thoughts. Being busy will not be an excuse. You answered their calls even though you're still in the middle of finishing that report because you know they might really need you. But when you try to look for that rock to make you feel like you're not alone, they are nowhere to be found. They have no time for you, they still have a party to attend to, or a series to binge-watch rather than listen to your problems. Friendship doesn't work that way.

5. Their opinion and feelings are the only things that matter.

Who cares if you are not really a fan of this certain series? You have to like and watch it because they like it. You don't like this pizza toppings? Well, endure it because it is their favorite and they want it so bad! Do you feel indifferent towards someone? Get over it because that someone will be a staple in the crew. Whenever you are all together, they only talk and let you listen as if they don't need to know what you think and what important is what they all can talk about. Even if you want to tell them how you feel, they will dismiss it because they don't feel it valuable. If they know it pains you or you're affected in a bad way and they act as if everything is okay, they don't really care about you. You don't need people like them in your life.

6. They make you feel like it is your fault even if it is their fault or not anyone's fault.

Whenever you are in a situation that you have no control of, they take it against you and they make you feel like you are the reason why something has gone wrong. They tend to point fingers on you, or subtly makes you feel bad about the whole situation. Things like this make a person feel down and you'd apologize for something you don't have anything to do with. It sucks that you have to go through this situation.

7. When you start feeling anxious rather than happy when you are with them.

Your subconscious mind often knows what's really going on even before you can grasp it. You might think that being with them is a good thing, then why do you feel anxious now rather than be happy that you're with them? It is an indication that you are actually already feeling the toxicity that they brought upon you.

8. They betray you and/or take you for granted but never apologizes for it and still do it anyway.

They tell other people bad things about you or your flaws and they don't feel bad about it. They make you this lacking and bad person in other people's minds. And when you learn about it, they just shrug their shoulders like it's okay because you are friends. And they still do it because they can. Which is totally not okay. Nobody is perfect, but is it really necessary to talk bad things about you when they are your friend? 

9. They make you question your self and your worth.

If they constantly bug you with anything that is wrong with you, or negative things about you or even how bad you do things, then their goal is not to make you a better person like they should but to question your self and your worth. Real friendship shouldn't do that to you. They should be there to be a constant reminder of how happy it is to live and not how dreadful to be breathing.

If you got these type of friends, maybe it is the high time to distance yourself with them.

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